How to Address Your Wedding Invitations

Planning Advice

Hi friends! Addressing your wedding invitations can be a confusing (and time-consuming!) part of the wedding process. Whether you’re doing them yourself or hiring a calligrapher, there are a few key etiquette and style rules to keep in mind when addressing your envelopes:

  • Spell out common abbreviations like street, avenue, lane, apartment, You should also spell out state names. Mr. and Mrs. can stay abbreviated, but spell out Doctor.
  • The return address should go on the back flap of the envelope rather than the upper left-hand corner you’re used to (unless you had it printed or blind embossed).
  • The names of married couples belong on the same line, unless it simply doesn’t fit. The names of unmarried couples go on separate lines, with the person you know first. If you know both, the woman’s name goes first. If you know two members of a same-sex couple well, list them in alphabetical order.
  • If you’re inviting a family versus just a couple, you can list all their names on the inner envelope. If you won’t be using an inner envelope, you can simply write “and family.”
  • If you’re inviting someone with a guest, you should try your best to find out the guests name and write it on the envelope. The words “and guest” typically come off as impersonal but it will do in a pinch.
  • You should use full names for formal invitations. The most formal invitations use middle names, but never initials.
  • Medical doctors should get a “Doctor” before their name (not abbreviated!). You should also use titles with judges, government officials, clergy members and military officers. List the member of a couple with a title first.

A lot to keep in mind, right? I’d keep this guide handy if I were you!




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