What to Look for in a Wedding Officiant

Hi friends! This week, superstar Adele made headlines for officiating her two best friends’ wedding. Super sweet, right? While most of us probably won’t get Adele to officiate our weddings, it is important to find an officiant that is perfect for you. Whether that is a friend, family member, member of the clergy or anyone else here are a few things to look for:

  • They’re ordained. This seems like a no-brainer, but different states have different rules. In most states, ordained members of the clergy and civil servants (like judges) can officiate. In a few states, even a notary public can legally wed you. Either way, most people can get ordained online so just do your research and confirm what’s allowed.
  • You have a strong connection. A wedding ceremony feels so much warmer when a couple has a connection with the officiant. Many couples decide to ask a friend or family member for this reason, but there’s no reason you can’t have a great connection with someone outside this inner circle.
  • You like their style. I’m not talking about their wardrobe here (though that is also important!). You want to make sure you agree with their approach to the ceremony. Do you want someone that keeps things light and fun? Is having a religious aspect important to you? Do you want the freedom to personalize the proceedings? Discuss all these aspects with a potential officiant.
  • The logistics work out. Make sure they can travel to you, clarify what their fee includes and ask if they have any restrictions in terms of where they’re willing to perform the ceremony (some will only conduct ceremonies at a house of worship).

Your wedding officiant will set the overall vibe of your wedding ceremony, so the most important thing is to make sure you’re comfortable with one another.



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